Yesterday, my hearing friend and I had the two great debates. We argued about a few things … Actually it is not the first argument we had. We had a quite few debates. I can understand that he is a hearing guy, and I am a deaf guy. He is entitled to have the opinion and what he knows of. So am I, too.
My hearing friend, lets call him a Hearie. It may not be the best name. I don’t want to name his real name to expose himself on the Internet. Yesterday, Hearie told me that he had read the article about Gallaudet and Football on Washington Post. I asked him if he can give me the article link. He told me where it was. I went looking and found it. I read it slowly… but I stopped for a second. It bothered me very much! Here is the small excerpt from the article:
DeStefano, the athletic director at Gallaudet, has this wild idea: Let’s bring back varsity football to the world’s only liberal arts university for the deaf and hearing-impaired. Never mind that it’s been 11 years since the Bison last played as a varsity team. Forget that — with the exception of an outstanding four-year run in the late 1980s — Gallaudet football has not had a winning season since 1930.
It did say “…the deaf and hearing-impaired.”
I don’t like the word term: hearing-impaired.
I decided to tell Hearie that I don’t like the word used in the article. I specifically told him it was hearing-impaired. I asked him: “Why would the writer say that?” “Why cannot he just say deaf?”
Actually, I know what the writer meant. He should probably say hard of hearing (HOH). Because it seems to be more acceptable in the deaf community. I mean for those deaf people who can hear some usually call themselves HOH. In my opinion, all persons who have mild, medium, or severe hearing loss are deaf. Yet, it happens the same with the gay community. Some people say I am Bi-Sexual while I say they are gay. So I cannot change the identify what they are.
Anyway, the word Hearing-impaired started us the hot debate. Unfortunately, I don’t remember every words he said, only some. It was a very tiring and overwhelming argument. Therefore, I could not quote what or how he said. However, I was bothered by it. Truthfully, it was a sore debate. Often, we got out of the way on the topic. We didn’t have the limitation. Mostly it went in general. It is funny, that he and I thought we do not understand each other from beginning. Really, my argument mainly was that I wish they don’t call us as hearing-impaired. However, I cannot speak for the deaf people. I hope they do agree with me.
Back to the point, Hearie thought that hearing-impaired does apply to deaf people. He did ask me to check what the impaired/impairment means. Impaired means physically or mentally unfit. I told him that I don’t have any physical or mental unfit. He said hearing is a physical …. I cannot remember what word he used. It was a advanced word. Later on, I have thought about it. Generally speaking, he is right that I am hearing-impaired. Ok, I admitted that he is right. I do have hearing-impairment. I was born with it. However, the word hearing-impaired sounds offensive when you called a person who has mild, medium, or severe hearing loss. Cultural speaking, it make us feel less for who we are. Recognizing as a cultural identify, we preferred deaf rather than hearing-impaired. Actually, it is nothing to do with right or wrong how you say it. Yet I hope Hearie and the rest of the world understand why we cringe when we heard them call us that, and hope they will call us the proper way on the Internet, newspaper, and even in the person. I told him that hearing people usually asks after they found I am deaf, such as “Oh, you hearing-impaired?” or “How did you become hearing-impaired?” I often corrected him or her that I am deaf, and then I go ahead and answer his or her questions.
When we had this continual debate, I research on the Internet and I discovered as it describes:
Elderly people with a hearing loss developed late in life often refer to themselves as being hearing impaired. This is an appropriate exception, but is often overgeneralized by the majority of the American public.
Sometimes during our debate, Hearie did agree with that part above. Then we moved to another great debate. It was about deaf community/population. He was more of pressuring on population while I was pressuring on deaf community. We talked about which city has the largest deaf community, or in his theory, which city/or state has the largest deaf population. In some way, I think he thinks that community/population mean the same thing. I am not sure what he is thinking about it.
Well, I didn’t how we got into that far, not start from yesterday, we talked a little last week, I believe. Basically, he loves questions. He was as curious as a Curious George. That is ok, I try my best to answer all of his questions. He asked me something about Gallaudet University. Pardon me, I may have a bad memory. Actually it was a lot of talking in the past few weeks. Sometimes I can be overwhelmed with the heavy conversations. He asked me, like, in my own word, why is that so? When I said DC has the largest deaf community in the US. Oops, I have hurt his feeling by saying, “DUH.” He felt that I offended him as if he was stupid. Actually, when someone said, “Duh” to me, I don’t take too seriously, and I would do like, what or why? As if I am curious. I said it is because of Gallaudet University and usually, deaf students after graduation stay in DC. Yesterday, I cleared to him why DC has the largest deaf community, is because DC is not the only one; DC Metro. DC Metro contains DC, VA, and MD, so it make all three make its largest deaf community.
Now why I did mention population? When I said DC has the largest deaf community in the US, he apparently was reluctant about that idea, and said, no, KY has the large deaf population than DC. I made myself clear that he cannot compare KY and DC because KY is the state, and DC is the city. Anyway… some things I did not follow Hearie about things he has said. I ignore it and insisted that it is true that DC has the largest deaf community. So I double-checked with one friend … to my surprise, that Rochester, NY is the largest deaf community in the US. Then I said, ok, it may make sense because it has NTID there. I apologized to him that I made the mistake, and told him that Rochester is numbered 1. Later, I asked another friend about it, he said something like that, “No, the largest deaf community in the US is DC. Rochester has the best deaf community, but the largest, no. DC’s deaf community is much bigger.” I did not say that right what he said, but it was something like that.
Finally, I got tired of debating with with Hearie…after he was not happy that I changed the fact twice, which made him not trust my source. He said that he cannot rely on my source. Well, I got my source right at the beginning. He said that he will find out for himself from the reliable source. I said to him that he can find out for himself, and I hope he will find a good source whatever is the right fact. Again, I know I am right.
Sure, there are many cities that have good/best community in the US. A few to name, Austin, Riverside, Fremont, Rochester, and DC. However, which city has the largest deaf community? My answer would be DC. What is your take?
Now, I know how difficult to talk to a hearing person about things like the great debates we had yesterday. I cannot say I blame on him. I know our population/community are very small. It may be hard to understand our culture/our views. I perfectly understand their culture, maybe not fully but adequate. I learn a lot from hearing people out there all of my life. I have been around by hearing people a lot. While out there, you hearing people don’t see deaf people every day, and they could not get a chance to learn our culture/our view.
Update:
You can check those websites below about the word term: hearing-impaired.
What is Wrong with the Use of these Terms:
“Deaf-mute”, “Deaf and dumb”, or “Hearing-impaired”?
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